Besides the actual and factual definitions of Domestic Violence, I spent time looking a bit deeper what it really involves. I came to a conclusion that Domestic violence is a dangerous rife that affects your body and your mind through hurt, fear, anxiety… Domestic violence is so devastating that it destroys life. It destroyed mine for years. I remember feeling threatened by my ex-husband even after being physically far away from him. I moved into a different continent but I was still scared of him. the thoughts of him paralyzed me to the point that I imagined him in every street corner I walked into. I remember one day in the subway I saw someone who didn’t look like him but had something that reminded me of him. I turned my face away and quietly waited for the doors to open and I ran. I ran out of the train without looking back, I ran for miles, I ran so fast that I was out of breath and couldn’t feel my legs anymore. I went to hide in a public bathroom and sat there for hours. until I convinced myself that it was not him. Episodes like that were not uncommon. I lived in fear for such a long time that it became normal, I got diagnosed with all types of disorders, my blood pressure was so high that doctors wondered how come I was still on my feet no medication could bring it down. I lost weight, my hair. I could never sleep at night… Add anything negative and bad that you know to this. He didn’t have to be there, he was controlling me from a distant and I could not understand why. Thank to the word of God that enlightened me. the word of God declares in 2 Timothy 1: 7 “ For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind” In other words, everything that I experienced then, were not from God. God wants me to be at peace. Let me tell know it was a great revelation, I still did not how to change my life but I knew right there that I had to do something to inherit this good news. So, if it is not from God it has to be coming from the deceiver and sure enough it was God’s word says in John 10:10 “ The thief cometh not, but for to steal, and to kill, and to destroy: I am come that they might have life, and that they might have it more abundantly”. The enemy’s plan is to destroy it doesn’t matter if you did something good or wrong. Destruction is the goal and he has developed many arenas to achieve that. In the domain of Domestic Violence he operates by controlling the abuser. He possesses him and bombard him with violent actions, mean and hurtful languages, skeptical attitude… Domestic violence is the plethora of wrongdoing orchestrated by an evil spirit through the hands and/or mouth of a possessed human being. That’s why often times your won’t recognized the man you fall in love with. or sometimes right after he beat you up, he’ll come back at you with a totally, completely different attitude. I remembered asking my ex-husbands during the “non violent episodes” the why, they both pretty much said the same thing some of their answers “I don’t know what got into me, I don’t understand” or “it’s your fault, you provoked me” another one “you always do those things that upset me” moreover, “you didn’t obey”. It was always my fault. And it made even more sense when I analyzed what God says in 2 Corinthians 10:4 “The weapons of our warfare are not carnal” and in Ephesians 6:12 “For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places”. Don’t think your abuser will change so easily, he cannot do on its own, he is possess, he needs deliverance and healing to stop hurting you. take this seriously and find a way to stop this before it is too late. Specialists call this a disorder, they have many names such as Narcissistic, Borderline, Anti-Social, Hystrionic, etc.. If you are not a christian and don’t understand my reasoning, I beg don’t just throw this away, give it some thoughts and pay close attention if you are still in an abusive relationship. In you’ve been set free, please consider this and challenge yourself to forgive him.