The first time I heard about Domestic Violence was in one of “MADEA” ‘s movie. Sorry I cannot recall the title. In the movie, an elderly woman was begging her only child (a young woman who had been abused and betrayed by her husband) to forgive. I remember her saying when you don’t forgive you give power to the person who did hurt you. Consequently, you will never be free. This movie scene in particular, always intrigued me because I didn’t really understand what this woman meant.
I was trapped in unforgiveness, I never wanted to let go. I kept them (my ex-husbands) in my memories. I was still connected to them via this anger, and they almost won again because I wanted to act like them. I wanted to hurt them no matter what. I thought revenge will make us EVEN. Unfortunately, revenge was the perfect continuation of their abuse, and perpetrating my abusers’ acts would have made me similar to them. But when I decided to FORGIVE, I stripped off all the power they had. Deuteronomy 32:35 helped me break through this bondage of unforgiveness. God himself was going to assure my revenge and that was good news, no that was GREAT NEWS. The word of God says “Vengeance is Mine, and recompense; Their foot shall slip in due time; For the day of their calamity is at hand, And the things to come hasten upon them.”
Once I forgave them, I didn’t feel anymore anger, stress etc. My memories still remain, but for a greater purpose. I use them to help Overcomers like you. Now I can relate to what the lady said in MADEA’s movie. I am free, no feeling imprisoning me, no one having power over me but Jesus Christ. I don’t owe a man anything but the love of my GOD. And like the lady in the movie, this is me today begging you through this post to let go. I assure you, once you forgive you will be free of hurting the way you are hurting now. PLEASE HEAR ME, BE FREE TODAY!